Pauline's last visit to Kelvin Road

Pauline will be coming by to pick up Greg, Bridget and Danny on Tuesday morning between 9.45am and 10am and then on to St Josephs. Greg has requested if anyone would like to gather outside number 18 Kelvin Road at this time they would be very welcome.

A celebration to remember for Pauline

The colour for ovarian cancer is pink. If you feel like it, show your colours and don't forget the lipstick!
The wake celebrating Pauline's amazing life and the many, many treasured moments ...the laughs, tears, hugs, family, friendship and fun will be held at the Alphington Bowling Club. It will be lunch time, the bar will be open, there will be music and children, tea and coffee and food.
Please bring a plate- savoury or sweet- whatever you can manage will be fantastic!
Pauline often spoke of her wake and how the Bowling Club would be the perfect venue for her family and friends to come together and celebrate. It will be a very special day.

rest in peace our darling pauline

Dear Friends

Pauline died yesterday evening, peacefully and surrounded by love - a big tsunami of love generated by Greg and Bridget and Danny, but with all of us lifting it ever higher.

She died most beautifully - the culmination of a beautiful life.

Funeral Service

Pauline's Funeral Service will be held at:

St Joseph's Catholic Church
140 Westbourne Grove, Northcote
TUESDAY May 20 2008, at 10.30 a.m.
Flowers welcomed.

The Funeral will then leave for Burial at Warringal Cemetery, Darebin Street, Heidelberg.

The Funeral and Burial will be followed by a wake to which it is earnestly hoped all Pauline, Greg, Bridget and Danny's friends will turn up and help celebrate a splendid life.

The wake will be held at:
The Alphington Bowling Club
Parkview Road Alphington

On behalf of the APS Parents Association

To our dear Pauline,

I feel as though I am writing on behalf of so many parents and friends that you have at Alphington. Each day so many gather and express their concern and sympathy and want to know how they can help. Your amazing close neighbours have helped us to band together and offer you and your wonderful family assistance.

Pauline, can I thank you so much for creating your blog. Your journey has been one of tremendous strength, courage and fuelled by the enormous love that you have in your heart for your family. Reading it makes us all very sad but at the same time it has a powerful message. You have shown us what are truly the important things in life, things we all have and take so much for granted. Lately I have certainly been putting many things into perspective and I know others who have entered your blog have done the same. Thankyou for expressing yourself so well.

I leave you with our sincerest blessings and our support for you, Greg, Bridget and Danny. Rest assured that we are all here for you and that the support comes with so much love.

Lisa Jacob

On behalf of the “sisterhood” or should I say “parenthood” of which you will always remain a member – the APS Parents Association.

the voice, the look

Pauline called to Danny this morning, "Stop bouncing that ball inside. If you bounce it one more time I'll be taking it off you" - uttered with all the penetrating gusto she's summoned regularly as a union negotiator, HR manager, and mother.

Needless to say, Danny entered into dispute and gave the ball one more bounce.

This was a grand moment, but I am sad beyond words having to report that everything else is becoming very difficult for my sister. Greg looks after her and the kids tirelessly, and with infinite patience and devotion. With the energy she has left Pauline expresses nothing but her gratitude and love.

I love this photo of me and baby Pauline. Her gaze seems to say: Get on with it; No time for bullshit; Life is short.

Her gaze is different now. It is full of love and acceptance. But we would all do well to bear in mind that other, penetrating look. She has usually been right.

From your friends and comrades in the union movement

Pauline- our best wishes are with you, Greg, Bridget and Danny.

Your friends all over the union movement know what a fighter you are, and how your strength, intelligence and fierceness delivered so much for individual workers, and for the broader rights of the workers you stood up for, as a rank and file nurse during the 1986 strike to your service for the ANF and the FSU.

You are surrounded by your close friends and family, who are no doubt supporting you in this difficult time.

We want you to know that there are those of us who, while a bit further away, are thinking of you and wishing you and your family all the love and courage we know you have.

Elizabeth Lukin, Matthew McGowan, Sharron Caddie, Amanda Tattam, Ingrid Stitt, Maryanne Thomas, Rae Perry, Cath Noye, David Atkin, Paul Schroeder, Angelica Pantas, Sue Kenna, Chris Lockwood, Karen Kearney, Rose Kerlin, Lisa Hilda, Lisa White, Mick Scilini, Bruce Atkins, Nancy Conte, John Wilson,Michelle McCann, Angela Galati, Roger and Kerrie Lante, Melissa and James Thyer, Annie Mayo, Amanda Hohn, Sarah Wilson, Mary Doyle, Margaret Maloney,Lisa Fitzpatrick, Jan Brownrigg, Paul Gilbert, Mark Staaf, Catherine Hutchings, Jill Clutterbuck, Merryl Freemantle, Lindy Williams, Ros Holten, Leonie Kelly, Ross Longhurst, Mary Price, Cathie Raynor

Message from Greg's work

Hi Pauline, Greg & family,

It is with great sadness that we have learned of the recent return of your illness. I remember very well the lovely afternoon we enjoyed with you & the kids at Prue & Johns botanical paradise in the Yarra Valley. These and many others are important memories to treasure.

Our thoughts are with you & from all the staff at NAA we pass on our very best wishes & love.

Regards

Andrew Meerman
General Manager

Noel Arnold & Associates

Support for Pauline, Greg, Bridget and Dan

Having known Pauline for over 20 years I have watched her attract the most amazing bunch of friends from all walks of life. She has old high school buddies (of which Greg is one), nursing mates, union comrades, footy mates, Human Resource colleages, in more recent years her Alphington friends of which there are so many and others who have come into her life in all sorts of ways. How she has kept up with you all amazes me (even with all those lunch dates!).

I have been overwhelmed at the number of people who have offered to help in some way. I have spoken with Greg and it is for this reason I am posting to the blog to let you know how you might volunteer for something if that is what you would like to do.

As Pauline is very tired we would like be of as little disruption to the family as possible as they spend this precious time together.

We have four coordinators- dog walking, meals, garden maintenance and respite. The coordinators details are provided below and can be contacted if you would like to know more and go on the roster.

If you have any trouble contacting the coordinator via email please feel free to contact me anytime on my mobile 0407 838 913 or email louise.ajani@gmail.com.au

Dog Walking
Andrea Newman-Rogers
Email:a_newman_rogers@hotmail.com

Meals
Elena Callipari
Email:elena.callipari@dhs.vic.gov.au

Garden
Sue Gleeson
Email:sgleeson@baillieu.com.au

Respite
Anna Robert
Email:annarobert@netspace.net.au

It is a time when we are hurting and feeling so sad but the love and support all radiating out from our friend Pauline is and will always help us through.

Thankyou
Louise Ajani

A message from Pauline

Hi everybody, thank you all for the food, the flowers, the soups, the doggie walks, the messages of support and your kindness. I've been in a Panadeine Forte induced haaaaaze today. It’s hard not knowing how long this process will go on for, and feeling that I have little control over things, but I do genuinely feel at peace and have come to terms with the way things are.

Of course I would love to be around to see Bridget and Danny grow into the wonderful adults that I know they will be one day; to be at their Birthdays, their graduations, their weddings, and to go through all their trials and tribulations with them, but I know that I can't. Greg and I have spoken to them and while they are of course upset and will miss their mummy, I have told them that I will be with them in their hearts forever. One great consolation for me is that Greg is one of the best dads you could ever have, and is dearly loved by Bridge and Danny.

I am feeling quite exhausted, and uncomfortable these days, and don't have much energy for anything. While I would dearly love to see you all again please forgive me if I can't, or time does not permit. I am enjoying spending some quiet time with Greg Danny and Bridget. However, please send email messages, blog comments, letters or cards as I would love to hear from you.

A special request.

I have heard that children love to hear and read stories about their parents who have died, or things that happened when they were kids, and crave any information they can get, so I am collecting what I can for them. If any of you can assist by writing about your memories of me or the kids (however short) I would love to collect them and save them for Bridget and Danny. Anything at all: how you met me, something funny or noteworthy that I did, or that they did, any stories about their births, or anything else at all would be treasured. Again, it doesn't have to be long, (mind you I am expecting and epic from Aunty Rose).

Bye for now

Love you all

Pauline

Message from Alphington Primary School

Dear Pauline and Greg

On behalf of the School Council and our Principal Cheryl McCashney I convey our deepest sympathy on hearing news of your continued illness.

Please rest assured that the School will support and nurture Bridget and Danny both now and always. We will ensure they are strong and enthusiastic students and people, like their mother. We are aware of the support you and Greg are receiving from the School community and will make it our business to foster this support into the future.

Yours sincerely

James Thyer
President of the Alphington Primary School Council