From The Melbourne Age - Milestones June 6, 2008

Author: Rose Scott and Rosealie Vallance
Publisher: Fairfax
Publication: The Age, Page 18 (Fri 6 Jun 2008)
Edition: First
Section: Metro

A way with words and a knack for healing industrial and other wounds

PAULINE SCOTT

HEALTH PROFESSIONAL

24-8-1960 - 14-5-2008

PAULINE Scott, whose innate talent for resolving industrial disputes saw her play key roles as a leader of the nursing union and then on the other side of the fence as a human resources manager, has died of cancer at home in Alphington. She was 47.

Pauline was five months into her job as HR manager at the Mercy Hospital for Women, overseeing its move from East Melbourne to Heidelberg, when she was diagnosed with ovarian cancer four years ago.

Earlier, in November 1987, at just 27 years of age, she was elected president of the Victorian branch of the Royal Australian Nursing Federation after leading her comrades on the picket line the previous year in a defining moment for Victorian nurses.

The union had struggled to win better wages and conditions and eventually took on the state Labor government - and won significant changes for the profession and, in the process, politicised a generation of nurses.

Pauline was a job representative at the Royal Melbourne Hospital in October 1986 when she led nurses out on to the picket line, where they stayed for 50 days and 50 nights. She linked arms with her nursing comrades to stop trucks entering the hospital grounds, and dodged linen bags and garbage that were thrown at them. The good fight that she spearheaded led to her election as president in 1987-88.

Pauline was born into an Irish Catholic family in Essendon: her father, Michael, was a manager in the Post Master General's Department; mother, Celine, snapped up Gough Whitlam's invitation to adult education, gaining her matriculation and then an arts degree. 

From her family she inherited a sense of humour, a way with words, a passion for social justice, and a genius for friendship. Her greatest friendship was with high school sweetheart Greg Loats. They were together for their entire adult lives: they nursed together, worked in the union movement together, travelled the world together and had two children together.

Pauline started her nurse's training at PANCH in August 1979, and went on to study psychiatric nursing at Plenty Hospital, and for an arts degree at Melbourne University. She joined Royal Melbourne Hospital, and was later appointed charge nurse of 1 North, despite also having a well-earned reputation as a diehard unionist.

After her stint as president, she worked as an organiser, first with the nurses' union, and later with the Finance Sector Union. Her desk famously sported a framed photo of indigenous St Kilda footballer Nicky Winmar baring his skin to a taunting football crowd. Next, she took her industrial relations skills and her keen sense of humanity to work in human resources for hospitals.

In recent years it was a mistake to complain to her about the awfulness of ageing. "There is nothing I want more than to be old and decrepit," she'd respond.

Pauline was good at dispute resolution because she was a keen observer of the human condition. She loved the intrigue, suspense, friction and romance intrinsic to hospital industrial relations. She always talked of weaving the characters she met into a novel, and often beguiled her friends with her "strange tales from the dark side". These stories were made more exquisite by her ability to impersonate all the characters. She is survived by Greg, who nursed her selflessly, daughter Bridget and son Danny, and her siblings Greg, Rose and Maryanne.

Louise Ajani assisted in preparing this tribute. 

Pauline mentioned in the Victorian Parliament

On Thursday May 29, 2008, Fiona Richardson, the Member for Northcote bought Pauline's passing to the attention of the Victorian Parliament.

Ms RICHARDSON (Northcote) — There are some people who live their lives in such a way that they have a profound effect on those around them. Pauline Scott was one such person.

On 14 May this remarkable woman from Alphington passed away after a four-year battle with ovarian cancer. Pauline Scott’s life proves that everyday people are truly extraordinary. In her working life she stood up to hospital boards and a government. In Alphington she worked hard for her community. In her personal life her boundless love shone through until the end.

Pauline was born in 1960 into an Irish Catholic family. At Essendon High School she met her lifelong friend and partner, Greg Loats, with whom she had two wonderful children, Bridget and Danny. Greg and a long-time friend, Catherine Beadwell, are in the public gallery today.

Pauline was a nurse and union representative at the Royal Melbourne Hospital during the nurses’ strike of 1986 and led pickets for 50 days outside the hospital. The subsequent victory of the nurses forever changed the way nurses are regarded, as being in their rightful place as respected health professionals. The following year Pauline was elected president of the Victorian branch of the Australian Nursing Federation and went on to be an organiser for the union and later was an industrial officer with the Finance Sector Union.

Even during her years of illness, Pauline was always volunteering for school activities including taking on a one-year stint as the president of the Alphington Primary School parents association.

In her final years Pauline maintained a blog in which she described the horrors of chemotherapy, yet she remained all the while hopeful for remission. Her joy and pride in her family shone through the ordeal. Entries from her family and friends show that she in turn was loved widely and profoundly. If the voices that we leave behind are the testament to our lives, then Pauline leaves a rich legacy indeed. 

MEMBERS STATEMENTS

Thursday, 29 May 2008 ASSEMBLY 2011

 

Pauline's last visit to Kelvin Road

Pauline will be coming by to pick up Greg, Bridget and Danny on Tuesday morning between 9.45am and 10am and then on to St Josephs. Greg has requested if anyone would like to gather outside number 18 Kelvin Road at this time they would be very welcome.

A celebration to remember for Pauline

The colour for ovarian cancer is pink. If you feel like it, show your colours and don't forget the lipstick!
The wake celebrating Pauline's amazing life and the many, many treasured moments ...the laughs, tears, hugs, family, friendship and fun will be held at the Alphington Bowling Club. It will be lunch time, the bar will be open, there will be music and children, tea and coffee and food.
Please bring a plate- savoury or sweet- whatever you can manage will be fantastic!
Pauline often spoke of her wake and how the Bowling Club would be the perfect venue for her family and friends to come together and celebrate. It will be a very special day.

rest in peace our darling pauline

Dear Friends

Pauline died yesterday evening, peacefully and surrounded by love - a big tsunami of love generated by Greg and Bridget and Danny, but with all of us lifting it ever higher.

She died most beautifully - the culmination of a beautiful life.

Funeral Service

Pauline's Funeral Service will be held at:

St Joseph's Catholic Church
140 Westbourne Grove, Northcote
TUESDAY May 20 2008, at 10.30 a.m.
Flowers welcomed.

The Funeral will then leave for Burial at Warringal Cemetery, Darebin Street, Heidelberg.

The Funeral and Burial will be followed by a wake to which it is earnestly hoped all Pauline, Greg, Bridget and Danny's friends will turn up and help celebrate a splendid life.

The wake will be held at:
The Alphington Bowling Club
Parkview Road Alphington

On behalf of the APS Parents Association

To our dear Pauline,

I feel as though I am writing on behalf of so many parents and friends that you have at Alphington. Each day so many gather and express their concern and sympathy and want to know how they can help. Your amazing close neighbours have helped us to band together and offer you and your wonderful family assistance.

Pauline, can I thank you so much for creating your blog. Your journey has been one of tremendous strength, courage and fuelled by the enormous love that you have in your heart for your family. Reading it makes us all very sad but at the same time it has a powerful message. You have shown us what are truly the important things in life, things we all have and take so much for granted. Lately I have certainly been putting many things into perspective and I know others who have entered your blog have done the same. Thankyou for expressing yourself so well.

I leave you with our sincerest blessings and our support for you, Greg, Bridget and Danny. Rest assured that we are all here for you and that the support comes with so much love.

Lisa Jacob

On behalf of the “sisterhood” or should I say “parenthood” of which you will always remain a member – the APS Parents Association.

the voice, the look

Pauline called to Danny this morning, "Stop bouncing that ball inside. If you bounce it one more time I'll be taking it off you" - uttered with all the penetrating gusto she's summoned regularly as a union negotiator, HR manager, and mother.

Needless to say, Danny entered into dispute and gave the ball one more bounce.

This was a grand moment, but I am sad beyond words having to report that everything else is becoming very difficult for my sister. Greg looks after her and the kids tirelessly, and with infinite patience and devotion. With the energy she has left Pauline expresses nothing but her gratitude and love.

I love this photo of me and baby Pauline. Her gaze seems to say: Get on with it; No time for bullshit; Life is short.

Her gaze is different now. It is full of love and acceptance. But we would all do well to bear in mind that other, penetrating look. She has usually been right.

From your friends and comrades in the union movement

Pauline- our best wishes are with you, Greg, Bridget and Danny.

Your friends all over the union movement know what a fighter you are, and how your strength, intelligence and fierceness delivered so much for individual workers, and for the broader rights of the workers you stood up for, as a rank and file nurse during the 1986 strike to your service for the ANF and the FSU.

You are surrounded by your close friends and family, who are no doubt supporting you in this difficult time.

We want you to know that there are those of us who, while a bit further away, are thinking of you and wishing you and your family all the love and courage we know you have.

Elizabeth Lukin, Matthew McGowan, Sharron Caddie, Amanda Tattam, Ingrid Stitt, Maryanne Thomas, Rae Perry, Cath Noye, David Atkin, Paul Schroeder, Angelica Pantas, Sue Kenna, Chris Lockwood, Karen Kearney, Rose Kerlin, Lisa Hilda, Lisa White, Mick Scilini, Bruce Atkins, Nancy Conte, John Wilson,Michelle McCann, Angela Galati, Roger and Kerrie Lante, Melissa and James Thyer, Annie Mayo, Amanda Hohn, Sarah Wilson, Mary Doyle, Margaret Maloney,Lisa Fitzpatrick, Jan Brownrigg, Paul Gilbert, Mark Staaf, Catherine Hutchings, Jill Clutterbuck, Merryl Freemantle, Lindy Williams, Ros Holten, Leonie Kelly, Ross Longhurst, Mary Price, Cathie Raynor

Message from Greg's work

Hi Pauline, Greg & family,

It is with great sadness that we have learned of the recent return of your illness. I remember very well the lovely afternoon we enjoyed with you & the kids at Prue & Johns botanical paradise in the Yarra Valley. These and many others are important memories to treasure.

Our thoughts are with you & from all the staff at NAA we pass on our very best wishes & love.

Regards

Andrew Meerman
General Manager

Noel Arnold & Associates

Support for Pauline, Greg, Bridget and Dan

Having known Pauline for over 20 years I have watched her attract the most amazing bunch of friends from all walks of life. She has old high school buddies (of which Greg is one), nursing mates, union comrades, footy mates, Human Resource colleages, in more recent years her Alphington friends of which there are so many and others who have come into her life in all sorts of ways. How she has kept up with you all amazes me (even with all those lunch dates!).

I have been overwhelmed at the number of people who have offered to help in some way. I have spoken with Greg and it is for this reason I am posting to the blog to let you know how you might volunteer for something if that is what you would like to do.

As Pauline is very tired we would like be of as little disruption to the family as possible as they spend this precious time together.

We have four coordinators- dog walking, meals, garden maintenance and respite. The coordinators details are provided below and can be contacted if you would like to know more and go on the roster.

If you have any trouble contacting the coordinator via email please feel free to contact me anytime on my mobile 0407 838 913 or email louise.ajani@gmail.com.au

Dog Walking
Andrea Newman-Rogers
Email:a_newman_rogers@hotmail.com

Meals
Elena Callipari
Email:elena.callipari@dhs.vic.gov.au

Garden
Sue Gleeson
Email:sgleeson@baillieu.com.au

Respite
Anna Robert
Email:annarobert@netspace.net.au

It is a time when we are hurting and feeling so sad but the love and support all radiating out from our friend Pauline is and will always help us through.

Thankyou
Louise Ajani

A message from Pauline

Hi everybody, thank you all for the food, the flowers, the soups, the doggie walks, the messages of support and your kindness. I've been in a Panadeine Forte induced haaaaaze today. It’s hard not knowing how long this process will go on for, and feeling that I have little control over things, but I do genuinely feel at peace and have come to terms with the way things are.

Of course I would love to be around to see Bridget and Danny grow into the wonderful adults that I know they will be one day; to be at their Birthdays, their graduations, their weddings, and to go through all their trials and tribulations with them, but I know that I can't. Greg and I have spoken to them and while they are of course upset and will miss their mummy, I have told them that I will be with them in their hearts forever. One great consolation for me is that Greg is one of the best dads you could ever have, and is dearly loved by Bridge and Danny.

I am feeling quite exhausted, and uncomfortable these days, and don't have much energy for anything. While I would dearly love to see you all again please forgive me if I can't, or time does not permit. I am enjoying spending some quiet time with Greg Danny and Bridget. However, please send email messages, blog comments, letters or cards as I would love to hear from you.

A special request.

I have heard that children love to hear and read stories about their parents who have died, or things that happened when they were kids, and crave any information they can get, so I am collecting what I can for them. If any of you can assist by writing about your memories of me or the kids (however short) I would love to collect them and save them for Bridget and Danny. Anything at all: how you met me, something funny or noteworthy that I did, or that they did, any stories about their births, or anything else at all would be treasured. Again, it doesn't have to be long, (mind you I am expecting and epic from Aunty Rose).

Bye for now

Love you all

Pauline

Message from Alphington Primary School

Dear Pauline and Greg

On behalf of the School Council and our Principal Cheryl McCashney I convey our deepest sympathy on hearing news of your continued illness.

Please rest assured that the School will support and nurture Bridget and Danny both now and always. We will ensure they are strong and enthusiastic students and people, like their mother. We are aware of the support you and Greg are receiving from the School community and will make it our business to foster this support into the future.

Yours sincerely

James Thyer
President of the Alphington Primary School Council

Hello again

Unfortunately, as many of you may know by now we have reason to re-start Pauline's blog. After a second round of chemo last year and radio therapy early this year, Pauline's illness has returned.

In just the few days since this has become clear, as the word has got around, Greg and Pauline have received so many messages of support and concern that we have decided to re-start the blog to enable us to keep everyone up to date on how Pauline is going and to allow family and friends to leave messages for her.

Pauline has probably known better than any of us that neither of these treatments could safeguard her future, but she has pursued all options and has looked fantastically on top of things. However, given the nature of this recent recurrence, Pauline has accepted that further treatment would not be effective and is unlikely to to offer any relief.

Pauline is already quite weak, and tires easily, so it is with much sadness that we reluctantly request that her many dear friends please call before visiting to ensure she isn't exhausted on any given day. She truly does know that she is loved and that each of us wants to help in whatever way possible.

Any messages left on the blog will be read by or to Pauline, and if at all possible she will make some posts. Please note that if anyone has difficulty negotiating the blog or would prefer to send a more private message they can email Pauline at scott.pauline@optusnet.com.au

It is already clear that my sister is going to travel the next leg of this journey with infinite grace; supported by Greg, Bridget and Danny and surrounded by our love. She will make it as easy for all of us as she possibly can.

Pauline's sister, Aunty Rose.

good bye dear blog ...for now

Hello all my blogger friends,

After much consideration I have decided that I will probably not make any more entries for awhile .... mainly because I don't really have much to say. Life is going on well .... the kids are great, I'm feeling pretty well, Greg is coping well and I feel like its just a bit boring for you to hear that everything is going well.....

Its a bit like when you see all the relatives at a funeral or a wedding and you say "we must catch up more often" and everyone knows it won't be until the next wedding or funeral. However I would love to catch up individually with anyone that wants to keep in touch by email ..... scott.pauline@optusnet.com.au
I hope that I will hear form you all and I do thank you so much for your entries that have cheered me up so much and lifted my spirits when I most needed them.

No doubt at some stage the blog will return but until then send me an email ......

Love
Pauline
xxxxx

Still blogging on !!!

Hi fellow bloggers ...... you must be wondering if my blog has died or whether I am still alive !!! Well no to the first and yes to the former. I haven't worked out how to get a holiday snap on the blog but I promise it will follow.

I have had a fantastic holiday on Queensland ..... it was the best family holiday I've ever been on . Not only did I survive 2 weeks on the Gold Coast with an unlimited theme park pass, 2 children and hours of the Simpsons, Futurama and Neighbours and NO BABY sitters I actually loved almost every minute and had a first ever "no fight" holiday. Greg and I got on really well and the kids had a ball..... I was aided and assisted by Greg taking Danny off for extra curriculum theme park visits leaving me and Bridget to play more games of 500 (because the four hours all ready per day was not enough for Bridget the kitty hog ... and yes if you know 500 you would know that she got that disease from ME the number one kitty hog of all time) and the name game and her new one .... lets play being journalists and making up news stories or writing essays.

I took my Peter Temple (fantastic Australian crime writer ... just won the best international crime novel award for 2007) books every where I went and even managed to go on ONE scary theme park ride ... much to every one's amazement. All I can say about the dreadful Pirate Ship is that my suffering was brief but very intense ........ and confirmed my life long belief that I do not enjoy or tolerate any motion apart from driving a car. I was very glad to get off and feel very glad that some times you do make the right decision about life time habits!!!I'm not just a scaredy cat!!!

To be honest I did have a few in the middle of the night scary thoughts about what was going to happen to me and how long I would be around to not go on scary rides etc . but I think that's pretty normal . Despite all my attempts to be positive and take each day as it comes, and live in the present moment, and realise I have no control over the future and to focus on love, kindness and forgiveness and cancel negative thoughts etc etc etc..... I still am only human and have no answers.

Welcome to the human race. I know I am not alone.

I will always look back on that time away with a great feeling and thank my Mercy friends for their kindness and love in sending us off in such great style!!!

Since being back I have seen my doctor the lovely Peter Grant and he was very kind and spent a lot of time with me and Greg answering my rambling, repetitive questions and I felt like he had all the time in the world and I was his only patient in the world ..... He was very encouraging and we both walked out feeling very lucky and relieved. I may have a little hot spot on my hip which may need some radiation but Greg and I are going mattress shopping today just to make sure its not a joint problem So keep your fingers crossed.

I learnt a long time ago from a long time survivor of ovarian cancer that the secret is "to keep on keeping on" and I'm starting to understand what she meant.

In the meantime I have found a delightful little Austrian psychiatrist who spends hours and hours with me and bulk bills!!! and we are working on spontaneous healing (the mind can make you sick the mind can make you well.....) Apart from any thing else he is a really nice, intelligent man and I enjoy listening to his words of wisdom and wealth of knowledge. Greg and I have also been listening and reading Eckart Tolle (The Power of Now) which has been great. Aided and abetted by a good bloood thirsty crime novel ... also very therapeutic.

Any way thanks for all your love and support ... I am off to my friend Leanne's beach house for the second week of the school holidays (thanks Leanne!!!) and I am looking forward to more walks on the beach and the sound of kids laughing as they play chasey and hidey and putting my feet up with a good book and a couple of good friends (thanks Jenny and Anna!!)

Life is good.

Love
Pauline
xxx

Hello ....

Hi there everyone,

I am enjoying my post chemo days ..... and getting back to feeling better each day .

It has been a wonderful but sometimes tricky transition because once you finish chemo whilst the body feels much better the brain can start playing tricks in terms of anxiety and worry......will it come back , will I be OK, how much time do I have, what about my kids ????etc etc .....I am sure you can imagine the general theme.

So I have been off to a 3 day meditation retreat and had a wonderful session with a doctor that specialises in this kind of thing. Basically the advise is ... face your emotions such as fear, grief , anger and just acknowledge its OK to feel that way .... sit with it through meditation and allow myself to feel these emotions without being critical or trying to control them. So far this advise has been fantastic and working well.

The other important advise which I think is very true, although once again not always easy to adopt, is that the timing of all our deaths are unknown .... No one really knows how long they will live because it is out of our control.

So for a confirmed control freak like myself it is actually liberating to leave that to the Lord/ Higher Being/ Unconditional Love/ Nature/ you can fill in the blanks .... and accept that there are many many people who shouldn't be alive today who are and vice versa many people who should have lived who are gone ... What doyou think???I'd be interested in your thoughts.

I am enjoying spending time with the kids and Greg is enjoying my improved cooking .......given that I have all day to think of something to cook. No more excuses. I even ironed a couple of his shirts the other day for the fist time in about 25 years!!! Oh dear I have turned into the little house wife after all this time!! To tell you the truth I love it ....

We are all off on our wonderful Queensland holiday in about 2 weeks and Danny is all ready counting down the "school days" left till we go.

Its pretty exciting and I can't wait.

SO I am in good spirits and enjoying life .........especially walking my little doggies through the parkland's and gradually catching up with friends.

Love to you all

Pauline

Finished!!

Hello everyone,

I am so happy to be finished with chemo and to have my life back to normal again.

I practically skipped out of the day chemo unit last Friday and have had a beautiful week off without thinking about fronting up for another round.

the last 18 weeks have been very difficult for Greg and Bridget and Danny and of course yours truly but it is lovely to have finished and to have had the great support of all our family and friends.

So thank you everyone from the bottom of my heart.

I am off to a 3 day meditation retreat tomorrow at the Gawler foundation so as usual I leave with mixed feelings (should I go?What about the kids? How will they manage?) and will hopefully return inspired and more geared up for daily meditation.

I am still very tired but I think that is pretty normal and it will take awhile to get back to a normal sleeping pattern. I am well and truly back on the healthy diet and all the vitamins and minerals so I hope they are doing some good. Haven't even looked at a licorice strap for over a week!!! I think I am cured of my chemo induced junk food phase!!

Treated myself to a front row seat at King Lear last week and loved every minute of it (well OK 3 hours was a wee bit long but I only nodded off for a minute in the endless sub plot bits!!)

Looking forward to holidays in September....Mermaid Beach here we come.

Love to you all.

Pauline

One day to go

Hi everyone,

Do I sound excited??? I never look forward to chemo but in this case I feel like I want to "bring it on" now!!! I am so looking forward to getting healthy again and being able to get back to doing all the things I enjoy without the continued grind of fronting up for those heavy duty drugs and all the related anxiety about reactions and side effects and IV lines etc.

I have been enjoying myself this last fortnight and basking in the glow of almost being finished. I have demolished a few good blood curdling crime novels. Nothing like an escaped psychopath to keep my mind off the nausea (The Sleeping Doll by Jeoffrey Drever in case your interested).

I am always in a good mood when the Saints are winning (they slumped when I was sick and are now coming into good form like myself!!) I fell asleep listening to the game last Saturday and thought that we had lost by 4 points. I felt quite deflated and kept trying to get an update throughout the night ..... to no avail. I was very pleased to hear in the morning that it was a bad dream and we had won by 17 points!) All that wasted angst for nought.

My lovely neighbour Anna, and fellow dog walker, introduced me to a very secret path in the Darebin Parklands that leads to a lovely sheltered natural rocky area next to the creek and is a real sun trap on these winter days. It was meant to be on the proviso that I did not tell a soul. Sorry Anna! No body goes down there and you feel like you are all alone out in the bush with lots of sun and birds and the water and best of all no snakes because it winter. I took Danny and Bridget down there yesterday on their Curriculum free day and they loved it ... Danny was having a little Tom Sawyer moment by the rushing creek (we are reading the Adventures of Tom Sawyer at the moment and he's right into it !!! I think it makes him feel less naughty and rather superior as naughty Tom and Huck creep out of houses at midnight, go to cemeteries with dead cats and pull hair in church etc etc!!)

I also received a fabulous "present" from the Mercy 8 (Julie C. Julie T. Katrina, Jan, Chris, Catherine, Denise and Lisa ) who have given me and the family a 2 week holiday on Queensland, return air fare and enough cash to splash to ensure every theme park and restaurant on the Gold Coast is well frequented. I was the guest of honor at a wonderful dinner and heard all about their Movie night and Camber well market stall. Whilst they made it sound like they had a ball I know it was an enormous amount of work. So thank you once again. Mercy people are very special ( that includes ex Mercy!!)

We are going to have a ball and I have a picture of the beach that I look at in the kitchen when I'm cooking. They gave me a shoe box full of money and Danny's eyes nearly popped out of his head when he opened it. Needless to say the money was solemnly "counted" about a hundred times by Danny and I am pleased to say he resisted the urge to pinch a little along the way (see I told you he was better than Tom and Huck!!) He was very disappointed when I took it to the bank for safe keeping.

I have to go now and check if Miss Bridget is in bed. She was last seen "straightening " her hair by the heater in the bathroom because it was crinkly after being in plaits!! She thinks I am very mean because I wouldn't let her watch Neighbours tonight. We have a TV free policy on school nights. Then on Monday Bridget smiled beautifully and said "Excuse me mum do you think I could possibly watch Neighbours just this once please because there is going to be a wedding tonight ... " How could I resist? Then the next night. "Excuse me mum after the wedding there was a terrible car crash on the way home and we find out tonight if they are alive or dead..... and so it goes on and on and on!!I can remember HATING my mum for brief periods when she didn't let me watch whatever show I was addicted to at the time. The injustice of it all.

When I speak to you next time I will be in my next phase ..... living each day and remembering how lucky I am to be alive to enjoy it .

I thank all of you for your support and love during this time ... I have felt very connected and that has made it much easier to get through. My world is full of very kind people and I am very lucky.

Regards
Pauline